I love my chapel veil

I recently read an article about the comeback of chapel veils entitled, “Head covering is thinly veiled patriarchy.” The author wrote to call out what us veil-wearers don’t seem to see – that “Catholics are not the Amish,” that this trend is anti-feminist, and that wearing a veil is “downright repressive.”

What I’d like to share is that I’m not a barefoot kitchen slave because I wear a veil, nor do I feel repressed as a woman. I want to share why I choose to wear a veil… and why I love it.

My first encounter with veiling happened when my husband and I were visiting my out-of-town sister-in-law about a year ago. We joined her family for Tridentine Mass one Sunday and it was only my first or second time ever attending the traditional Mass. My 12-year-old niece offered me a veil to borrow on our way there, noticeably excited to be able to share something precious of hers with her super cool soon-to-be aunt. I declined her offer. I’d never worn a veil before and really my only thought was, “This is weird.”

Shortly after, we began attending the traditional Mass regularly. Most of the women at our parish wore chapel veils and my husband soon purchased one for me as a gift. At this point, I’d become familiar with how commonplace they were among women at our church and it seemed no bother to start wearing one myself. It was delicate and pretty & gave me an excuse not to worry about what my hair looked like on Sunday morning.

Then, at Christmastime, we went to visit and stay with my family for the holidays. We joined everyone for the Novus Ordo midnight Mass at my home parish… and I wore my veil. My brother laughed, saying “Take that off!” as we were heading inside, not realizing I was seriously going to wear it for Mass. As we sat down in the crowded pews, my dad came to me and asked if I could help out as a Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion. This was strange to me now, having attended the Traditional Mass for many months, where on Sundays I received Holy Eucharist kneeling… on the tongue… from a priest. I asked if he could please try to find someone else, but to come back to me if it became a desperate need. I anxiously wondered whether I could really serve if he did come back to ask.

A short while later, he did and I had to stand by my decision. At first I couldn’t quite justify my choice, but suddenly I realized what was keeping me seated in the pew: my chapel veil.

In that moment, unlike any time before, I recognized the sanctity of my chapel veil in its ability to demonstrate my utter unworthiness to receive Christ in the Holy Eucharist and my humility before God. I could not as I had before, stand in the sanctuary with Christ in my unblessed hands and with proper dignity be the one to offer His Body and Blood to the faithful.

I cannot discredit those who serve honorably as Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion, but my heart was transformed by recognizing the powerful sentiment a simple piece of lace demonstrates – a tangible expression of faith, gifted to us as women from the instruction of St. Paul.

In this letters to the Corinthians, he explained the relationship between man, woman and Christ; that the head of every man is Christ, in that Jesus came to earth in human form and man is a physical representation of Him; and that the head of every woman is her husband, in that woman is a physical representation of the bride of Christ, which is the Church.

St. Paul goes on to explain that if a man covers his head during Mass, he dishonors his spiritual head which is Christ, because veiling himself would represent a rejection of Christ incarnate. However, a woman veiling herself represents a recognition of Christ incarnate as she demonstrates a sign that the Church is covered under Christ’s protection.

So why all the anti-patriarchal hullabaloo? It’s clear that many people are inclined to reject St. Paul’s teaching:  “For a man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of man.”

Women must be reminded that this is a good thing!

St. Paul is saying that woman are glorious in their own right, complementary to men as Eve was created out of Adam. God blesses women in a way he does no man – with the gift of motherhood, making her a sacred vessel of life, by which we are truly glorious. Veiling is not only reserved for women in recognition of our glory, it also provides a way to demonstrate humility in veiling that glory before God during Mass.

Mantilla - Chapel VeilTraditions like this certainly don’t have cause to die simply because women have a right to work or to vote. And in many ways, they haven’t – considering most women today still wear wedding veils! More significantly, the Church has always veiled holy things – like the tabernacle – and she continues to do so in modern times. As women, we are also vessels of life; we are living tabernacles. It is a timeless trait that cannot be abandoned for the sake of feminism.

My veil reveres what is precious about my womanhood and about my marriage; it reminds me about my relationship to Christ; it humbles me before the Holy Eucharist; and it serves as a symbol of modesty, of my inherent dignity as a woman. As a Catholic who loves the rich history of our faith, I am joyful to have this tradition to practice as one more that is unique to me as a woman of God.

I love my chapel veil.

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  3. Excellent post, expressed well. It is especially good that you consistently explained the substantive good of veiling, rather than arguing from aesthetic preference or theorizing that veiling is good because it is actually feminist.

  4. THE
    CHAPEL
    VEIL

    Oh lowly, little, chapel veil
    You are my dearest friend
    For when my hair’s all mops and brooms
    You cover end to end

    And when my hair’s not curling right
    Or when it sticks out straight
    You gently hold it all in place
    And make it look first rate!

    But feminists they hate you so
    You lowly, simple thing
    To them you are so vile not veil
    To praise Our Lord and King.

    And passing by the Church of Seven,
    “Autonomy’s”, their phrase
    They never know the joys of Heaven
    Such as no bad-hair-days!

    For lowly, lacey, chapel veil
    You tame my hair so wild
    But truth-be-told though I look nice,
    It’s really for The Child.

  5. I have had the same experience with being an Extraordinary minister of the Holy Eucharist (?). Out of love I had volunteered, then out of deeper love and understanding of my state before Christ I refuse to act in this way. I did use a veil for a few occasions. I see it a great help in growing in understanding in that we are probing further into what it means that He created them male and female. But I don’t think the veil itself is the sole cause. It is the interior disposition and the desire to Love God above all things that moves us. Wear the veil by all means! But do not think this is the only way for someone else to grow in understanding this same great truth about our selves. Not accusing you of this, just a caution for anyone who may think it isn’t happening outside their own experiences.
    Jenn

    • YE ARE WRONG JENN :((( AN YE SADEN ME! THE GOOD “LADY” THAT TOLD YE ITS BECAUSE OF THE BOEL WAS RIGHT AS JESUS CHRIST TOBE HAD MIROCLES! THE SLIVERS OF THE CROSS HE DIED ON WITH STAINS OF HIS BLOOD SET MERIVALS AN I HERE MORE OLD NUNS SAY WITHOUT THERE LONG GAVITS THEY BECAME WAAAAY TO OUTWIRD ! AN THE YOUNF “LADIES THAT ARE GOING BACK TO THE CLOTHING THE NUNS HAD FOR CENTURIES FOR MODESTY TO ALMIGHTY GOD SAY THEY FEEL INSPIRED BY ALMIGHTY GODS BLESSINGS OF THIS! AN NOW PRIEST ARE COMING BACK TO FULL FROCK AN ATTIRE AN FEELING MORE AS A PRIEST! AN REMEMBER JENN THE ROSERIES ARE MATERIAL YET EVEN THE POPE BLESSES THEM :) SO IM HAPPY THIS GOOD “LADY IS RECIEVING THE SPIRIT MORE WITH THE MODESTY OF HER VAIL AN CLOTHS ! THEY PLEASE MOTHER MARY VERY MUCH BY THIS! I THINK YE SHOULD TAKE SPIRITUAL INVENTORY OF YESELF AN WHY YOU HAD THE NEED TO BRING THIS UP ! JUST BE GLAD SHE IS HELPING BRING BACK WHAT ALMIGHTY GOD WANTED :) AN MEANT FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS ! THANK YE GOOD “LADY ” KATHY YE WILL HELP SETV THEE EXAMPLE THAT WAS GONORING YE HEAD AN TO OTHER CHILDREN AS THE BIBLE SAID FROM ALMIGHTY GOFs WORDS :) TAKE CARE AN WE NEED MORE LIKE YE AN IM PRAYING FOR YE AN YOUR HUSBABD ! AN I WANT TO EVEN SAY THANK YE GOOD HUSBAND FOR THE THOUGHTFULNESS OF FIVING HIS GOOD WIFE A VAIL ! SOME MEN ARE NOT THAT THOUGHTFUL ! SHAKE HIS HAND FOR ME PLEASE ! WE CAN LEARN FROM HIM TOO :) ALMIGHTY GOD BE WITH YE IN ALL YOU DO AMEN AN AMEN ++++++ <3 ++++++ PS IM POOIR SPELLER AN A WEE BIT HABDICAP SO I TYPE BIG LETTERS BUT ALMIGHTY GOD USED MOSSES AN HE STUTTERED AN MANY OTHERS HAD HABDICAPS TOO AN HE FOUND A CAUSE FOR THEM TOO :) SO IM GLAD HE CAN USE ME TOO :)++++++

  6. I respect your choice to wear a chapel veil. I would also like to add some information to this discussion. The quote imbedded in the quote below is from the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, Inter Insigniores; Declaration of the Question of Admission of Women to the Ministerial Priesthood, 1976, n. 4.

    On the blog of the canon lawyer Ed Peters, I found this:

    “Concerning St. Paul’s statement to the Corinthians quoted above, the CDF has stated that this was a discipline based on customs of the time, not a permanent moral obligation:
    ‘But it must be noted that these ordinances, probably inspired by the customs of the period, concern scarcely more than disciplinary practices of minor importance, such as the obligation imposed upon women to wear a veil of their head (1 Cor. 11:2-16); such requirements no longer have a normative value’.”

    You can find the quote in context at http://www.vatican.va

    (I posted this in the wrong place before…sorry!)

    • Thank you, Susan, for posting this. But to be very blunt, when given the choice between what someone at the CDF writes about proper behavior and what St Paul writes about proper behavior, I’ll take the latter. :)

      Covering my head for one hour a day, one day a week, is hardly a major inconvenience, and the fact of the matter is that while anyone at the CDF might doubt the “normative value” of such an act today, those at the CDF cannot and will not rightfully doubt that the symbolic value of the act—which is what is described by St Paul—has not and will not “change with the times.” For women to refuse to cover their heads because they refuse to ADMIT what St Paul is saying is a counter-symbolic act, and a likely deleterious point of pride. Such refusal places us women in the fix of having to state that while we don’t DISagree with St Paul on the matter, we certainly do DISagree that making it known to others (by covering our heads) that we really do agree with him is something that we just don’t want to do. Heaven forbid we get lumped in with St Paul! ;) Now, surely, St Paul was used to being treated as a pariah by this time in his life, but should he still be getting such treatment from us Catholic ladies some nearly 2000 years later? Cut the dude some slack—after all, he’s RIGHT!

      Why make symbolically expressing a truth so complicated, when St Paul has kindly made it so simple? Veil, up, ladies! When given such clear instructions, the refusal to adhere seems rather hard to justify without the rather un-Catholic excuse of personal pride.

      • I do agree with St. Paul, but I do not wear a veil. I have stopped volunteering as Extraordinary Minister. It just didn’t seem right and probably helps helps promote the belief by many Catholics that the Eucharist is not the true body and blood of Christ. To veil or not to veil is not my biggest concern. Having women of all ages cover their legs, and stop wearing shorts to Mass distresses me beyond the pale. But maybe if more women wore a veil the ones in their short shorts might get the hint. Or maybe our pastors could speak up!

      • Keri, I’m not sure we need pit the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith against St. Paul, though I see nothing “repressive” about veiling in its acknowledgment that Christ is King and Lord, so I actively encourage women to veil. After all, humility is the mother of giants, and Ven. Fulton Sheen once put it that “in order to see big, man must first make himself small.”

        And can we please not forget that the Catholic Church does not do Sola Scriptura for good reason? Being aware of the trap of spiritual pride indeed goes for *everybody*, those of us here replying to the comments and beyond. Scripture is always read in light of Christ, and He gives the authority of correct interpretation to the Church, the Body of Christ. Even St. Paul recognized and acknowledged the authority of St. Peter, and I will take the CDF over anyone’s personal interpretation of Scripture any day.

        About the best advice on veiling that I’ve ever received from a priest is to do it for the right reasons– to become closer to Christ, all the better to love and serve Him. He also told me something similar when it comes to kneeling to receive Communion on the tongue, and that it’s not the “norm” (or at least that’s what it’s come to), but the priest can’t refuse you Communion, either.

        For what it’s worth, I veil for all Masses, both EF and OF– and love both, wherein I allow the EF to help me pray the OF and keep me centered and focused: in some ways, I plug the EF into the OF and watch things unpack themselves, which reinforces for me how catechetical the Mass itself is (which means that I’m better able to tune out things that do indeed bother or distract me from the structure and theology of the Mass– such as music with problematic lyrics that, in the words of one priest blogger, makes the “heretical hit parade”). I also kneel and receive Communion on the tongue at the OF, and no-one bothers me. I was also worried that I’d get snarky comments about how I was trying to be “holier than thou” when I first started veiling, but most people either think that my veil is beautiful or they ignore me and leave me alone. Furthermore, I am a Ph.D. candidate in history trying to finish my dissertation, so I don’t exactly take claims to “patriarchy” and “repressiveness”– particularly from those who don’t know Catholic tradition and can’t be bothered– lying down. And neither would I take kindly any insistence that women can only be truly holy if they stay home, if that is indeed what the Church were teaching, and she does not. What is at stake here is a stronger sense of who we are as Catholics: finding our identity, both collectively and individually, in Jesus Christ. The catch is that we have to know Who Christ really is. As the lead-up to this recent election tells us, it seems that way too many people, quite a few Catholics included, think they know Who Jesus Christ is, but don’t. Veiling isn’t mandatory when it comes to being called to a deeper understanding and faith, but it sure can and does help, just as attending the EF does not make you a better Catholic than those who do not, but it can make you a better Catholic, period, if you let it.

        In addition, I’ve experienced the wonderful witness of the mother of one of my Jewish friends: this woman has four children, and she and her husband are very successful. And she works. But it’s also clear that they and their children know that what they’ve been given comes from God, and they put Him first. I wasn’t as much of a practicing Catholic at the time that I stayed with them, but I noticed how much at peace they were, and I don’t think it would be inaccurate of me to say that the seeds they planted taught me to be a better Catholic than I once was: I kept Kosher at their house out of respect for them and their belief in God, and they always included me in their prayers and in their blessings on the children. They also allowed me to say grace aloud before meals. So in a very real sense, I felt that peace also, because in an indirect way, through them, I’d put God first in my life in a way that I previously hadn’t. My friend’s mother veils for Shabbos prayers, which is something I began to recall when I first started to veil for all Masses, and not just for the EF.

        Those who wish to veil may do so (and should be able to do so without any condescending and thus uncharitable sneers or harassment from anyone else; same goes for those who wish to kneel and receive Communion on the tongue at any OF Mass), since the tradition has not been “abolished.” But those who do not wish to veil need not, and can and should feel comfortable not veiling as per Canon law, in light of both Dr. Ed Peters and Raymond Cardinal Burke (if I remember correctly).

  7. Thank you for your witness. This is a beautiful testament to the power of veiling. :)

    I wear a hair covering of sorts. I have a lace snood, or I wear a head scarf. I would like to get a chapel veil someday, but money is tight, so I do with what I have. I do this for several reasons and none of them have to do with the Church, the patriarchy, or St. Paul’s direct teaching, though I take comfort in St. Paul’s words, indirectly.

    I cover my head because it is a reminder to pray, a reminder to focus my thoughts on Christ. With 5 children in the pew with my husband and I, two of which are 2 and 1, I am oft in need of reminders to refocus my attention, lest I become caught up in a game of peekaboo, in an attempt to keep the baby quiet.

    Yes, Susan, the Vatican states that this is no longer a requirement for the NO. But that doesn’t mean that women cannot acknowledge the beauty that lies within the tradition and carry that on. It effects no one else but the wearer of the veil, hopefully for the right reasons. For more on why I veil, http://www.innocenceexperience.org/2012/01/prayer-is-more-than-words-why-i-veil/
    if anyone might be interested.

    • May I point out that the Church never required “veiling” per se, but rather covering the head. A snood, or a headscarf are just as valid head covering as a veil, and can be just as pretty (not that that should be a primary concern). Please don’t apologise for wearing something other than a veil.
      The veil is not superior to other head coverings, and perhaps more women would cover thier heads if they were told they could wear a nice hat, or a head scarf, instead.

  8. I came into the Church as an “active” catechist, “youth minister,” lector, and right at the time I was beginning to serve as an EMofE, I was whisked away on angels wings to the beauty, awe, and splendor of the Traditional Latin Mass. My daughter was already veiling. I was a recovering feminist, so it was a struggle, and I hated the way I looked in a veil. I started having a “sensation” that I was being draped with something, covered, during the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. I gave up my resistance.

    Eventually the lace snob in me found a lovely veil I ordered from Australia for my son’s first Holy Communion which would be celebrated on the august Solemnity of Corpus Christi. I thought it was perfect that I would wear a veil the first time my little man wore a suit to Mass. Milestones, ya know? The veil was MIA– it had unknowingly been delayed for over a month by customs. When we couldn’t “find” it, I hit my knees and begged God to deliver it in time for the big day. I promised I would “stick that thing on my head no matter how atrocious I looked.” It arrived LATE Saturday afternoon on our way to depart for my son’s first confession.

    I wore it… it was an awkward adjustment. But once I forgot it and felt so naked, I couldn’t bear to be with out it. Some friends who knew us before I became a trad-latinista question me. My reply is simple: “I pray this veil is squashing every last bit of feminism that may be left in me.” And that it may help to make me worthy to be the mother of a priest who wears his maniple so much more humbly.

    Walking into the Archbishop’s VERY Novus Chrism Mass this year, I was debating outside the Cathedral. My nearing 13 yo daughter said, “We are Roman Catholic women, Mom. Why would we not veil?” My children are my salvation in so many ways!

    Deus tecum, my sister in Christ. Thank you for sharing the beauty of the veil. Our Blessed Lady would dare not to be uncovered before Our Lord, so who am I to think otherwise?

  9. Katy,

    I really enjoyed reading this blog and was very humbled at …” the Church has always veiled holy things … as women … we are vessels of life … ” .

    I too veil; I (re)started after a trip to the Holy Land 2 years ago. My experience with Our Lord there was so intense and humbling that I felt called to humility before Him ( my beloved ).

    Thank you for sharing Katy.

    Joan

  10. The night I was confirmed into the Church (as an adult – two years ago!) I had a horrible, vivid, very symbolic type dream. When I woke I knew, without a doubt, that I could never, EVER be a Extraordinary Minister of the Eucharist. It was just clear to me. I don’t veil, but I cover my head in another way (hats!). I find this is a constant reminder to ME to behave myself when I’m at Mass.

    I know it sounds silly, and maybe not everyone needs such a reminder, but I am know I am weak enough that I need all the help I can get and covering my head HELPS me.

    God knows our deepest hearts, He knows our faults and our strengths and I do believe He spoke through the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians to teach us something. People can dismiss that verse as a ‘custom of the time’ but it was a New Testament custom, one that should not be easily dismissed. There is a lesson to be learned in that ‘custom’. If there wasn’t, it wouldn’t be in the Bible. :P

  11. My interest in veiling is a little different. I am old enough to remember when the EF was the standard liturgy and all women covered their heads. I welcomed the women’s movement when it arrived–including losing the veil. We could finally get out of the typing pool, gain center stage in the professions, make a name for ourselves in politics. But along the way, I watched what happened. Women were exhausted trying to hold down demanding jobs, raise children, and keep house. Worse was the way everything seemed to be achieved by behaving like men–long hours at work, swearing, drinking, aggressive sexuality. And then the ultimate humiliation as male designers dressed us like streetwalkers, or worse a version of their euphobophiliac fantasy. Some feminism. We’ve been pushed around by the culture as though we were sub-human. So now I veil. To push back at the cruelty and degradation of our age. And I am not afraid to say, I find it an exhilarating act of radical feminism.

  12. I love mine too. Middle aged women used to give me hard stares now everybody at the parish is used to it and several younger women have started wearing them.

  13. Good food for thought. I wore a veil for several years in quiet recognition of my husband as head of the family per St. Paul and for several other reasons. I finally stopped because, as the only one wearing one at Mass, I felt like it made me stick out, which kind of took away from it as a means of being modest. I’ve been thinking about going back to it though.

  14. I found this article very thought provoking and the responses equally so….thank you for your respectful and thoughtfully written post.

  15. History – the wearing of a veil or hat for women seems to have been a fairly consistent practice in the Church in the West until fairly recently. Practices in the Eastern and Orthodox Churches have varied. Protestant denominations also show a wide diversity in this matter. The 1917 Code of Canon Law in the Catholic Church mandated that women wear a veil or head covering. Prior to 1917 there was no universal Law but it was customary in most places for women to wear some sort of head covering. The 1983 Code of Canon Law made no mention of this requirement and by the 1980s most women, at least here in America, had ceased to wear veils or hats anyway. Currently there is no binding rule and the custom in most places is no head covering at all.

    As for me, I am 69. Therefore, I was about 26 when women stopped wearing headcoverings. Being younger, I thought I’d try it for a while. It lasted for about a month and I couldn’t stand it. You see, I knew nothing about the 1917 Code of Canon Law. I thought covering our heads was a sign that we really have the True Presence of Christ in the Eucharist unlike our protestant sisters who do not have the Eucharist and therefore have no reason to cover their heads. I am not a Latin Mass attendee although I have gone a few times. When I stop by church for a visit, the veil comes out. When I attended a Mass at a community college that did not have a church, the Mass was said in a classroom. At the beginning of Mass, out came the veil because Christ was coming. That’s it! That’s why I cover my head! As for the 1917 Code, before the turn on the century, just about every woman wore headcoverings when they just walked out the door of their house. With the start of the 20th century women were getting freer to break traditions. I believe the 1917 Code came about because of the new secularization. But, for me, the veil has nothing to do with tradition, it is all in the True Presences.

    • I veil for the same reason. When I go to adoration I wear my veil. To Mass I wear my veil. Any time I step inside the church I wear my veil. I even wore my veil when my grandfather was dying and the Deacon brought him Holy Communion. No one in my family veils anymore. My mother and sister both give me hard times about it but I go on veiling. I started to veil because my boyfriend asked me to and at first I felt a bit awkward and only veiled when he came to Mass with me. Once we got married I began to veil every time we went to Mass. I now work at a Catholic Seminary and I wear my veil to chapel. I’ve had seminarians ask me why I’m wearing that thing on my head (they honestly had never seen a head covering before . I’ve gotten dirty looks, and a few older priests have made rude comments. I’ve even had a priest refuse me communion because I was wearing my veil, kneeling and receiving on the tongue. I’ve had a non-habited nun demand that I “take that thing off my head immediately.” But I just smile and continue to veil. God knows my heart and my intentions. It is a choice that I have made to veil. It helps to focus on the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass and block out others. I don’t look down on those who don’t veil despite what others may think. Veiling is a very personal decision but I know for me veiling has helped me to think more modestly. Before leaving my house I always think is what I’m wearing today reflecting the same mindset as my veil. I find many of the traditions that have been lost to be very beautiful, for me veiling is one of those beautiful Catholic traditions. God helped me to become a better educated Catholic through my husband, veiling is just one manifestation of that new knowledge.

      • Wow! You have to wonder why the older priests and nuns without habits have such strong negative reactions to this beautiful personal choice you have made. I have often found that when one does something a little out of the ordinary, a lot of people seem to think you are doing it to attack them when that is completely untrue. I wonder if they would have the same reaction to someone showing up in a short skirt and low top for Mass. Somehow I doubt it.

      • Interestingly enough, the call to veil came gradually for me: I thought at first that I’d “give it a try,” given that I’d begun to discover the EF for the first time. I thought that the women’s veils were beautiful, and a couple of women wear nice, understated hats. When I asked my then-fiance, now husband, if he’d feel “weirded out” if I veiled for the OF, he at first said that yes, he would, though he wasn’t adamant about it.

        But the Lord does work in mysterious ways. We attend the EF once a month when we can. My husband doesn’t love the EF as much as I do, but he at least doesn’t hate it. But he no longer feels weird or uncomfortable that I veil. Certainly he wrestles with my devotion, and wonders if I’m trying to be divisive, and I have to rein myself in, too, lest that devotion does devolve into spiritual pride. When I had moments of “gee, what will people think if I veil? Will they stare? Will they assume that I’m trying to be ‘holier than thou’?” he told me to go ahead and veil, saying, “everyone already knows you as that chick who kneels for Communion, so they all stare at you, anyway!” ;)

  16. Finally, a good use for my 1950s chapel veil! My little granddaughter loves to use it for dress-up along with her Halloween costume.

    Does NCR only post bishop-approved comments, or does NCR actually believe in religious liberty and free speech?

      • Thanks, Katy, for responding to my comment. I was referring to the NCRegister; this was my first visit to the website. I appreciate the fact that your blog does seem to tolerate diverse views on a topic.

        I actually do love the look of a chapel veil, and I’m old enough to remember Jackie Kennedy wearing one. My college classmates and I always wore our chapel veils to Mass.

        As all of us do, I want freedom and equality of opportunity for my children and grandchildren, and hope my granddaughter will have the same chance to fulfill her God-given potential as my grandson will have.

        I do worry that too much emphasis on “tradition” can result in more limited opportunities for women and girls, and the expectation that their main role should be that of homemaker. Certainly we need good homemakers, and my college roommate half a century ago wrote in our alumnae magazine that she hoped there would always be a place for the educated woman in the home. I totally agree.

        But the economic reality today is that most families need both parents working in order to support themselves and their children, and young women must have access to equality of education and employment.

        In the 1950s women and girls were expected to wear hats or veils to church because it was “tradition” and their role. I wouldn’t want to go back to those days, ever. I believe Jesus opens His love to all of us, whether or not we’re wearing hats or veils.

        And I love to let my hair blow free in the wind, whether I’m on the beach or just going in or out of church.

        That said, I do love the look of chapel veils, and also love pretty hats. I just want us all to continue to be able to have the freedom to decide what to wear as free human beings.

    • Laura, it seems I can’t respond to your most recent comment directly – but hopefully you’ll receive this!

      Your first question was whether NCR actually believed in religious liberty & free speech. I’m not sure what spurred this comment but to begin, I will clarify that I do not seek the approval of every bishop before I publish a new blog post. That’s unrealistic. However, I am careful to make sure my thoughts & opinions align with Church teaching (the Catechism, the Magisterium) as to avoid causing scandal.

      I’m sorry that you’ve only found good use for your chapel veil in children’s costume play. Although you commend my seeming tolerant – you certainly put down the value of veiling that many of us hold. That’s really not very tolerant at all. It’s hurtful, in fact.

      You mention equality for your granddaughter & grandson and God-given potential. As I mentioned in my post, it’s important that we not blur distinctions between the genders, that we not paint them “equal” to one another because God created us unique; as women, we have distinct abilities that cannot be achieved by men and vice versa. Veiling recognizes these differences and reveres them. Does a women have the right to obtain her degree & seek employment? Absolutely. But a working mother can still recognize her husband as the head, and submit to him as the Church does to Christ, her bridegroom.

      We are free human beings, as you say. We do have the freedom to choose what to wear & what not to and that includes a chapel veil. But traditions have immense significance in our faith and it’s important that we recognize their value, oftentimes as being more important than free will. Do I have the free will to dress up as a priest when I go to mass? I suppose, but I revere the tradition we have in reserving certain apparel for our true priests. Just the same, I do believe women have the free will to veil or not to veil, but I believe the tradition is more valuable than that freedom.

      I hope you can come to appreciate the beautiful significance of veiling as more than just a pretty fashion.

      • I am a VERY educated woman, in fact I have two masters degrees graduating Summa Cum Laude both times , but I also have a deep respect for those who choose to sacrifice so that a mother can stay home with her children. I choose to work part time outside of the home but when I have children I will probably choose to work full-time in my home. I find that misguided feminists talk about choice but really don’t want women to choose. Instead they want women to act like men which they are not. I choose to wear skirts, veil, care for my home and my family. My husband does not force me to do any of these things. I do them all by my own free wil. I find it quite disrespectful and very irritating when feminist blabber on about freedom and equality while just trying to stick women in their feminist constructed box. I’d like to think myself an authentic feminist, a woman who knows and honors the values of true femininity. The femininity that God gave us as humble, loving, individuals who by his will allow us to become co-creators with him. Women were not created to be like men otherwise God would have made only males. I do not find that working frees me in fact I find that much of the time it confines me. I have friends who stay home and those who work outside of the home and by my own observations those who stay home tend to be much happier. Is this by accident, probably not. There is nothing wrong with working outside the home but their is also nothing wrong with not working outside the home either. I don’t need some feminist trying to convince me that somehow I’m less of a person because I choose not to work for a living.

      • “Does a women have the right to obtain her degree & seek employment? Absolutely. But a working mother can still recognize her husband as the head, and submit to him as the Church does to Christ, her bridegroom.”

        Well said!

        Though I will have to attempt to refine your point about “equal” just a bit, though: equal in God-given dignity, yes. But “equal” as in “no gender difference”? No. I think that there is a substantial versus a superficial understanding of “equality” at work here.

        One submits to one’s husband in good faith, knowing that he is also subject to Christ, and that his authority is given to him in order to serve God and neighbor. So submission is not about obeying his every whim, just as no man should mistreat his wife, thinking that being a “good provider” is exclusively material and not spiritual also: it is not provisional or holy at all to crush your wife’s or your children’s spirits by thinking that you can lord it over them. And it is not true that you are always right and whatever you say goes. Not when whatever you want and whatever you say is not rooted in the Way, the Truth, and the Life, and is therefore false and sinful.

        I am sorry that I sound so visceral, but this is a reality that I’ve experienced only too plainly, both among men who claim to be religious and men who claim to be secularist. As an historian, I have no illusions or delusions that man left to his own devices can’t and won’t mess things up, for “without Me,” says the Lord, “you can do nothing.” And this is true whether man’s shunting the Lord to the side expresses itself in either secularist or religious language. I may be a recovering cynic and skeptic, but it’s all the more why I take “remain in Me, for without Me, you can do nothing” seriously, and pray often and repeatedly not to forget it, myself.

        I also do not thumb my nose at authority or tradition or men, or organized religion, only that I think it important to understand the true ends and purposes of those traditions so as to see their continuity, and not make it an either/or thing. I can also tell the difference between authority and where it comes from and its abuse, thereof, to say nothing of the difference between those who try hard and fail, whereby they need encouragement, forgiveness, and prayers to pick themselves up and keep going, and those who just don’t give a darn. So ultimately, it’s about right order, and right order depends on right orientation.

        So as a wife who fully intends to finish her degree, work, and make a contribution both in the home and outside of it, part of my submission to my husband as head of the family is to help him be the man and husband that the Lord has called him to be– to be the best version of himself, which is to become the person that God made him to be. As a Catholic woman called to the vocation of motherhood, I’ve been given gifts that the Lord wants me to use, and I’m learning that I am to choose for Christ outside the home and inside it, and to nurture both my own children and other people’s children entrusted to my care vis-a-vis my work. Christians are called to be authentic, and what that looks like, exactly, only God can tell you, based on what He’s given you.

        Motherhood most certainly is not an inferior vocation, and women are not “reduced” to it. But it is also true that if we are to witness to this effectively, we cannot afford to see it almost exclusively in biological terms. It’s why we have women religious who do not marry for the sake of the Kingdom. There is a very basic and common spiritual component to motherhood that we need to reclaim, and that need to reclaim it becomes quite obvious whenever painful and hurtful discussions of infertility come up and those who are infertile feel shunted to the sidelines, even in Catholic circles.

        Both “tradition” and “progress” that do not point beyond themselves toward Christ as He truly is and our being rooted in Him risk meaninglessness and becoming moribund. Tradition reminds us of what is about what we believe about the relationship between God and Man, including who and what we mean by “God” in the first place. Because of Christ, this is a living tradition. And we look for the risen Christ in the East, which is why progress is meaningless if we do not ask “quo vadis”– where are you going?

    • Sorry Laura, but while I understand your frustration with some of the abuses of the pre-conciliar Church (and let’s not forget that they were legion, and that clericalism– both the formal kind and anti-clerical clericalism– is problematic), your comment reducing the chapel veil to a Halloween costume is more than a mite disrespectful. It is not just hurtful to others, but also lacking in understanding and even charity.

      I would ask you to ponder: what makes you so sure that the wearing of the chapel veil and education and employment opportunities as part of the fulfillment of a woman’s vocation of motherhood are necessarily antithetical and opposed to each other?

      I would also challenge you to ask yourself what you mean and understand by “tradition” as per its function and ends, and certainly what Catholic tradition understands itself to be rooted in, both philosophically and theologically.

      …or do you presume to relegate tradition to the realm of mere subjective aesthetic “choices” that are “just for nice”?

      • Sorry if that last line sounded uncharitable on my part as well, by the way.

        That said, reducing questions of devotionals, tradition, and worship to mere “style” is actually a problem. It’s all around us, not just in any discussions of veiling or not veiling, but Church architecture, Sacred Music, dressing modestly for Mass, and even when a commercialized Bridezilla wedding culture reduces a nuptial Mass to a “church wedding”– that this is not where the betrothed couple understand that they go in to the Altar of God, and that they are meant to be an outward sign of the Eucharist; a “church wedding” is “tradition” in the merely sentimental sense, it’s about what your mom, her mom, and her mom’s mom, and their mom’s mom did that you’re now doing, too (aw, aren’t we cute?), and it’s about “having pretty things.”

        Veiling is a beautiful tradition, Laura, and it is meaningful. But it’s onlty really meaningful and beautiful because of what it points beyond itself *to*.

  17. Thank you for sharing your love for a veil. I am a succesful professional, mother, wife and community servant, who have excell in every aspect of my life. So, wearing a veil is not in any way form of represion or underminds my womenhood. I too love wearing my veil as a sign of reverence to the eucharist, in prayer and in communion to our Lord.
    I encourage every women to try it.

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  19. I began wearing a chapel veil (in black, white, purple and dark red!) when I returned to the one True faith after a long detour through the degradation of feminism. I think it is so ironic that women resist this now. If I did not wear one it would be a sign that I still LOVE my independence/disobedience more than I love God! But I am not legalistic about it: I sometimes forget to wear it and its no big deal and I would certainly never impose wearing one on someone else. I just feel so blessed by the Lord that He loved me so much that He wanted to teach me humility and gratitude in this particular way.

  20. I personally feel that any woman who wears a chapel veil is kidding herself and making a fool out of herself. As Teresa of Gethsemane, OCDS said, you stick out like a sore thumb and draw negative attention to yourself.

    Every women I’ve known to wear a chapel veil is a self-righteous Traddy who trots out St. Paul to justify their oddity. You want to be more humble? Don’t parade your virtue to the rest of us.

    Wearing a veil is no longer a sign of humility, it’s quite the opposite. Why do all women who wear chapel veils look like this? http://www.catholicfreeshipping.com/Images/Products/chapelveil-m.jpg

    or this:

    or this:

    http://static.artfire.com/uploads/product/0/880/86880/5186880/5186880/large/reserved_-_picot_lace_crocheted_catholic_chapel_veil_in_black_7fb2f43c.jpg.

    You can publish this comment or not, which ever you choose.

    • Maria – Do you think it is foolish to genuflect? What if 99% of church-goers stopped genuflecting? Would you stick out like a sore thumb if you did it? Probably. Would it make it less virtuous? Absolutely not. Would it make you appear self-righteous, as if you were revering Christ in some special way that nobody else was… as if you were insisting on drawing attention to your piety?

      I recommend asking yourself who is the self-righteous one when you post pictures of women wearing chapel veils who are you clearly judging for looking a certain way.

    • Dear Maria,
      I would enjoy nothing more than to attack you personally but then that would bring me down to your pitiful level. I then wouldn’t be any better than you and I would never want to be so self-righteous or intolerant. I will be praying for you and your Teresa of Gethsemane, OCDS (who ever she is) to learn humility and self-sacrifice. Maybe then both of you might learn not to judge other’s hearts and learn to judge your own as God would judge them.

    • Maria, that’s not what I was saying at all. Rather I was saying that MY own cowardice and fear of sticking out like a sore thumb have stopped me from wearing a chapel veil so far. It’s true that we all need to assess our own motives before doing something “new and different” to make sure that pride or some other sin is not the motivator. However, I seriously doubt that you have assessed correctly in judging other women who wear chapel veils to be self righteous. At a Novus Ordo Mass, it takes courage and humility more likely than not to be willing to put up with the funny looks and maybe rude comments that wearing a chapel veil can bring. I admire women who wear chapel veils and all the reasons that I know of that go along with it!

    • “Every women I’ve known to wear a chapel veil is a self-righteous Traddy who trots out St. Paul to justify their oddity. You want to be more humble? Don’t parade your virtue to the rest of us.”

      …one might say the same thing regarding your own words, Maria. they display as much self-righteousness as you’ve accused others of being.

      And the lack of charity they convey most certainly is not virtuous, either.

  21. i am a 30 yo man and I could not be more proud of all women who were a veil at Mass, not to show submissiveness to men but to Christ. My wife and I are both sponsors for some very good friends of ours who will soon be entering the Church, my wife and our friend both recently started veiling and in spite of the stares and comments both of these stong women continue to veil for Christ, to imitate our Blessed mother, and to show their reverence for Christ in the Eucharist. These young women have set such an example that our women club recently held a veil making luncheon. Before there was sadly nobody who wore any kind of head covering in our Parish and through their testamony and actions there are many. May the Lord bless all you ladies for your love for Chist and our Blessed Mother whether you weatr a veil or not I pray that your actions will be an exple to bring others to Christ through the Sacrament.

  22. Beautiful!
    I converted to the Catholic faith in 2009 and wore a veil every Sunday. I was the only one in our large church community to do so. I fell out of practice for awhile but am beginning to wear it again.
    I get positive comments every time, and I have had several women express to me how they wish to wear one but are intimidated by the fact no one else does.
    I think it is a beautiful tradition!

  23. Thanks for such a beautiful post and charitable, insightful follow-up comments. I’m 25 and just started wearing a chapel veil in the presence of the blessed Sacrament. Most of the time, I’m the only one when I attend Mass in the ordinary form, but not always. I think our community has about 2-3 women who wear the veil (all under the age of 30).

    I started practicing the devotion when I attended traditional Latin Masses where a headcovering is expected (but it’s also not a sin to refrain from doing so!). After a while, it just stopped making sense to me to practice that devotion in one church and Mass, but not another. Plus, my husband is a big fan of the veil :D

    For me, it’s a distinctly Catholic symbol of remembering the Incarnation – that Christ chose to come into our sin-stained world through the body of a woman, a woman so totally rich in the Spirit of God. I wear the veil as sign of love for Paul’s writings as well.

    In my opinion, I think it’s important that we respect the fact that the headcovering is no longer a current moral obligation. Yes, the way in which the veil was discarded was perhaps poorly reasoned. But the Church has not deemed the veil a high priority to re-institute as a necessary moral discipline. To me, the headcovering is much like the Rosary: a beautiful devotion that can help us on our way to Heaven. Catholics aren’t obligated to pray the Rosary as part of their spiritual life, but every Catholic is strongly encouraged to participate in this devotion! Perhaps we should encourage the veil more. Every time I wear the veil, I remember that I’m in the presence of all the angels and saints honoring Jesus in the blessed Sacrament, one of His greatest gifts on our road to salvation. What a privilege for us to enter His presence in every Catholic church and chapel throughout the world!

  24. I am 23 years old and recently became Catholic this past April. I had a calling to veil right away. I still have the veil that I recieved all of my sacraments in. I absolutely love the tradtion. I think that is a good thing that it is not obligated. You should express your devotions because you want to do it, not becuse you have to. And just like many others, I too am the only one who wears a veil in my church. Yes, I get the stares, yes, I get lots comments/snickers (mostly bad) but in all honesty I don’t mind. Like a good friend of mine told me, “The more people that make fun of you the more people you can pray for.” Who knows, maybe one day it will click for them that it truly is a beautiful thing.

  25. Dear Katy,
    While I must believe that you have the best of intentions in your quest for greater reverence of the Eucharist, I find myself so disturbed by your article.
    The Patriarchy that you seem to believe is a non-issue in this situation is apparent throughout your essay. You rightly say that the Church has always veiled holy things, and yet state “I could not….. stand in the sanctuary with Christ in my unblessed hands and with proper dignity be the one to offer His Body and Blood to the faithful.” I would add what’s left unsaid in this paradigm – that no woman (since women cannot be ordained) is worthy (or holy enough) to touch the body of Christ.
    Within the mythological construct describing Christ as the head of man and man as the head of woman, woman is the glory of man. This is very beautiful poetry that speaks to our need for order, but we all accept that glory is due only to God. Paul’s literal interpretation of head covering is perhaps a lovely idea but little more. In fact, regardless of Paul’s initial meaning, in practice the covering of “holy” women has done more to subjugate them than to point out their holiness. It would seem that the current reinterpretation / resurgence of veiling may be part of a greater desire among some in the Church to turn back the clock.
    The graphic at the header of your site is interesting as well. In this well ordered world everyone sit’s reading in the living room. Three generations of females all have the same hairstyle and even appear to wear slight variations of the same outfit. None of the males have facial hair or long hair, except for Jesus in the painting on the wall – but he get’s a pass! Ah, maybe cultural contexts do change things? 2,000 years ago it was typical to look like Jesus, and 60 years ago it was stylish to look like the family depicted in this quaint and nostalgic drawing. Our role, I believe, is to uncover what it is that’s good about the world we inherit and what needs to be changed. Looking closely at the graphic I noticed that the Dad is smoking his pipe in the living room. Here we have the “all American family” sitting and reading holy books in their well-ordered world, all the while unknowing that the very air around them is filled with poison.
    Most people have accepted the fact that second hand smoke is a bad idea, just as we’ve learned that denying full personhood to women is to deny that they too have been made in the image and likeness of God. Not one of us, made in God’s image, lay or ordained is worthy to touch the body of Christ and offer it to others. If someone feels called to be a Eucharistic Minister or not, so be it. If someone (woman or man) feels called to wear a head covering in a holy place, so be it. But if we come to a time when women are once again forced to cover their heads in church I hope that I will have the courage to cover my head in solidarity with them.
    Br. Joseph Murray, OSA

    • Exactly what is your point? I feel that you are trying to stretch a point that is non-existent in any of what she has said. You appear to be one of those Vat II people who read the “spirit” and not the words. Just because you have an alphabet soup after your name doesn’t mean that you’ve got anything good to say. Looks like your too afraid of slightly traditional ideas to take a woman at her word. Time does not move backwards, traditional ideas or not to be feared. If you really weren’t afraid you wouldn’t have had to seek out this article to bash.

      • Thanks for your comment & for defending my post, Elizabeth. Please be careful to maintain respect in your comments here, especially when speaking to a Religious Brother.

      • I didn’t really mean to disrespect him as a Religious Brother however I hold those who are held in high regard to a much higher standard than I hold lay people. I find that people tend to accept what those who are part of Religious orders say more often than not and their for they should act in a way befitting of their statue in life. I have great respect for those who choose the sacrifices that come with being part of a Religious Order and most certainly as Priests. I however also expect them to act with that in mind. As he as been more respectful I to will be more respectful. Respect is easily lost when one acts disrespectfully towards others.

    • Br. Murray –

      Your comments seem quite arrogant and are very insulting.

      You draw completely on assumption that I was suggesting that anyone who is not ordained is unworthy of touching the body of Christ. I would absolutely prefer that only priests be the ones to offer Holy Communion and that all communicants should receive on the tongue (and the Church does too) – not because women are unworthy or not holy enough – but because it promotes reverence and avoids abuse of the Sacrament. Further, Communion “in the hand” was given as an indult and the Sacred Congregation for Divine Worship says it “must not be put into practice indiscriminately.”

      You are wrong in saying that “we can all agree” that glory is due only to God. He deserves the greatest glory, no doubt. But it is not sinful to recognize glory in others: http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/06585a.htm.

      What a great insult to St. Paul that you say that taking his teaching seriously is “perhaps a lovely idea but little more.”

      As for your taking the time to scrutinize the header image of my blog, I think it is absurd to pick apart the outfits, hairstyles, facial hair, and the pipe, which merely depict the culture of the time it was drawn. I can only assume you chose to criticize it because you believe it reflects my supposed “longing for days of old” which would match my desire to restore the tradition of veiling. The reason I chose that picture is because it portrays a timeless ideal of a family gathering to educate themselves on the faith – a beautiful faith, rich with tradition, which certainly does not swing with every new “cultural context” it encounters.

      “If we come to a time when women are once again forced to cover their heads in church,” I hope that they will recognize that they are no more “forced” to cover their heads than they are “forced” to stand during the gospel. And I hope you will have the courage to recognize your unique obligation as a religious man to clothe yourself according to the traditions of our faith, and respect lay women who do the same.

      God bless you and keep you, Brother. You are in my prayers.

    • You think she’s saying that no woman is worthy to touch the body of Christ? Oh, Brother Joseph, have you forgotten His Blessed Mother, who surely held Him in her arms? Do you suggest that because she was not one of the Twelve Apostles, that her contribution, her role, was any less important than Peter’s or Paul’s?
      There are some who would use veiling as a sort of rebellion against the Church, but please do not assume that ALL women who chose to practice this devotion desire to “turn back the clock.”
      I myself am disturbed by your choice of words, “mythological construct,” describing Christ as the head of man, etc. Do you honestly believe that these ideas make women less valuable in the eyes of God? If so, I am afraid that you have truly misunderstood what it means to be “the head of woman.” :-(
      It seems you think that “authority” given to men must mean “tyranny” against women. It makes me sad that you do not seem to understand that by denying our differences, you are actually demeaning women, not empowering them with “full personhood.” To say that women must take on the roles of men in order to be equal in dignity is to suggest that men are the ideal, and that feminine roles are inferior. It goes against the very thing for which you say you are standing up.
      To be submissive to authority, to be feminine, to wear feminine clothing, and to cover one’s head are some ways in which a woman can express her love of God. Please do not suggest that these “little ways” are somehow less valuable than other, more “masculine” ways, nor that they indicate rebellion against anything other than, perhaps, our “me-first” culture.

      • I do apologize if I appear arrogant or insulting to anyone. I can only assure you that this was not my intention. Rather, I wanted to register that I was disturbed by the essay, explain why, and then explain my fears for the future. I never intended for anyone to feel attacked and I never expected to be attacked myself. What future can we hope for if we can’t disagree with some civility?

        I’d like to explain myself further but will be unable to do so until next week. I will check in again on Tuesday or Wednesday.
        Let us all keep each other in prayer. Meanwhile I will sign off without the “alphabet soup” after my name or any “title” at all. Simply call me – and please treat me as – Your Brother in Christ.,
        Joe

    • Brother Joseph points out that cultural traditions shift, but does that mean once they shift they must remain? It happens that we may assign new definitions to symbolic gestures, emblems, words, or behaviors. In modern history, discarding the veil meant a woman had embraced the Church’s recognition it did not have the right to force her to wear a veil, that it was a choice she could make according to her wishes. During this time the new feminism was being explored and the discarding of the bra was seen as a casting off of physical and traditional entrapment; and the veil became one of those symbolic cast offs. And in time the word “choice” became a loaded word meaning death to an unborn child. Hence, after the 60’s a lot of negative power was assigned to a piece of lace that went over the head, and it’s purpose and meaning completely changed. After experiencing the breakdown of trust for the clergy and the authority of the church during recent worldwide molestation scandals etc., it seems Catholics are craving signs that there are boundaries and rules that will stick so they can trust, we are fearful of being misled again, so it is natural that time held traditions helps to reassure us we are within safe boundaries. Additionally, a cultural shift is seems to be taking taking place within the Church– the resurfacing of Latin, Tridentine Mass, and a blending of those traditions and practices in the ordinary Mass. The meaning of the veil is being explored again and the return of this once traditional head covering is being assigned a new post feminism, pre Vat.II meaning which maybe hasn’t gelled yet. This modern revisit to the veil by Catholic woman comes at a time when religion is under enormous public attack by the secular culture. Today I think women are very brave to veil. It is their courage and faith showing along with their humility and love for Christ and the Church. Once the veil supposedly meant submission, now it is seen as being aggressive. Today veiling at the Mass is quite radical,just as removing it was 50 years ago.

  26. In reading this blog post and the comments, this is the first time I have ever seen the word “veil” used as a verb (or possibly as a weapon?).

    So, with apologies to Shakespeare, here is a lampoon to light our way:

    “To veil or not to veil,
    that is the question,
    whether ’tis nobler on the head to suffer the frumps and frizzes of outrageous hair days,
    or to take the veil against a sea of tangles
    and by covering hide them”

    A lot of the reasons given by women who “veil” are very similar to the reasons given by Muslim women who wear the hijab.

    BTW, why do Catholic women who “veil” seem to consider themselves holier than Catholic women who don’t wear a veil?

    And they take themselves WAY too seriously, which makes them easy targets for merry Catholics with a sense of humor who might want to poke a little fun at them.

    • The word “veil” is used as a verb in scripture. What makes you think I’m using the word as a weapon?

      I can only speak for myself, but I hope also on behalf of all women who veil, I certainly do not consider myself “holier” than any woman who does not veil. If anything, my veil has brought me deeper humility among my brothers and sisters in Christ during Mass or otherwise.

      I’m not sure how you presume to know my sense of humor (or, as you suggest, lack thereof) but I don’t believe chapel veils have any ability to reflect a person’s seriousness about anything but their faith (which I should hope every Catholic takes seriously). I’m sorry you think that taking such a tradition seriously is an occasion for teasing. I hope that you will have the courage to defend a woman who chooses to veil if you encounter such “poking fun.”

      God bless you and keep you, Mary Pat!

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  29. I live in Mumbai, India, and by chance I got an email about the above, Wow it brought back memories of the years gone by when I as a youngster (now I’m 70 years of age) used to go for Mass and see Ladies with Veils attending. No doubt some of the more fashionable and wealthy would wear Hats , all different shapes and designs, but the more commoner would have their Veils and being in India, those with Sarees would drape their pallav on their Heads whilst entering, What a Glorious site it use to be and it gave the Whole Church such a Holy and Ethearal look. But alas gone are those days. Now not only have the Veils disappeared (exception of some few really old Ladies, Bless them) but Skirts have grown shorter, Blouses have become sleeveless and some even wear sort of shimmies hanging from two straps as though they have just come out of a swimming pool. I agree times have changed, but as many places have a dress code to permit your to enter, our Catholic Church has not decreed any such, but we as good Christians should have some respect for the place we enter to pray, specially when it is the Temple of our Lord.
    In India, there are some very low tribal s who have converted to Christianity, and their dress code and behavior at Church Services put all our High Society and Educated people to shame. Its not how we dress, but how we behave and what we dress and present ourselves in that shows our true Christian upbringing.

    Thanks for this site and may I be able to help others too.

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