Babies and blessings

Earlier this week, readers of left-leaning media were spoon-fed another dose of anti-child propoganda in an article from the Washington Post titled “5 charts that show why it costs nearly a quarter-million dollars to raise a kid today“. Whew… a mouthful of a headline, but in case you don’t read further, it gets the message across: babies are crazy expensive!

Lifesite News shortly afterward published a more realistic perspective on the cost of raising children, pointing out that the more you have, the less expensive they become.

onesieThere is no doubt that children cost money, from the first bottle of prenatal vitamins to the final semester of college tuition. And while it might be interesting to learn the statistics on family spending, I’m not thinking of imminent costs when I look at my baby boy, because he’s worth so much more than a quarter-million dollars.

Price tags aside, I’ve found one single thing that’s kept my personal cost of raising a child to an almost insignificant amount: Christian charity. And in a world that’s always counting the cost, we need a little more of it if we want to encourage mothers to keep having babies.

…Remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’
Acts 20:36

So blessed then, are men like my husband… who give their wives the wonderful privilege of staying at home to raise their children, who work tirelessly to provide for their families, and who make daily sacrifices that they may not have to worry about childcare.

So blessed are women like my friend, Dawn… who selflessly offer their time and care to babysit at no cost, just to make a few of life’s occasions easier for mamas like me.

So blessed are sisters-in-law… who pass along enough nice-as-new, hand-me-down furniture, clothes and toys that moms like me don’t have to spend a dime furnishing a nursery.

So blessed are grandparents and great grandparents and aunts and uncles… who love on new babies like it’s their job, continuously celebrating their cherished life with special gifts sent for no particular reason, other than wanting to share love with the baby.

So blessed are moms like my friend Kimberly… who, with lots of kiddos of their own, offer practical advice that saves you precious pennies – like using a laundry basket in the bathtub instead of a fancy seat!

So blessed are the strangers at the grocery store, the mall and the hospital… who help bag your groceries when they see your hands are full, who run to grab doors, to load your trunk, to reach what you can’t, who get you diapers when your baby has a blowout and you’ve forgotten to refill your bag before a midnight emergency room visit.

So blessed is every hand that touches my child’s life that I may not have to count the cost of raising him to adulthood.

No mother should be scared out of having children because of their cost. If we lived in a world that placed a higher value on sharing, giving, and providing for new moms, we might be able to celebrate more births, lose fewer “unwanted” babies, and be a better example of Christ in supporting struggling moms… that they may be reminded of the glory of their vocation as mothers.

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.  She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.  She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.  Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:  ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’
Proverbs 31:25-29

Religious liberty: you’re doing it wrong

Over the past several years, American Catholics have been banging loudly the gongs of religious freedom. From the first Fornight for Freedom in 2011 to the USCCB’s most recent plea to congress to protect the Religious Freedom Restoration Act, religious liberty has been touted among the Catholic clergy as our most important, first freedom.

All the while, I’ve been scratching my head… wondering if I’m alone in worrying that this freedom could be afforded with dangerous consequence to groups that threaten the Truth of our faith.

And that’s when the Satanists go marching in… (Wait, is that how the song goes?)

The Dakhma of Angra Mainyu, a self-proclaimed religious and educational church, as most everyone knows by now, is hosting a Satanic Black Mass in Oklahoma City at the public Civic Center next month. And against the valiant effort of Catholics, many Protestants, and even some governmental authorities to cancel the event, the Black Mass is still scheduled to take place.

But this is what we’ve been asking for, right? For the government to leave us alone and let us practice our faith as our religion dictates. It makes perfect sense that a public municipality would not prevent its citizens from hosting what might be a tasteless but certainly not illegal event, especially for the sake of religious freedom.

Only until I read a recently published article from the National Catholic newspaper, The Remnant, did I realize I wasn’t a fool, or possibly a dissident, for questioning the call to defend our so-called religious liberty. In “Religious Liberty for All… Except Satanists?“, writer Louis Tofari hits the nail on the head: “…when taken to its full logical consequence, religious liberty is a pernicious error which has grievous consequences to individual souls as well as entire nations.”


The problem is that Christians are expecting protective legislation from a government that isn’t on our side. Hobby Lobby may have won the battle,  but liberal democracy is set to win the war.

Too many people believe in a false history of God being at the foundation of our nation’s formation. In fact, it has always been quite the opposite. The United States was the first purposefully secular state in the history of the world. Our founders, “orthodox” as they may have been (although, notably, most were Free Masons), specifically omitted any mention of God from our Constitution. Among some of the clearest documentation which clarifies the secularity of our States is the Treaty of Tripoli, of 1797. It reads, “As the government of the United States of America is not in any sense founded on the Christian religion – as it has in itself, no character of enmity against the laws, religion or tranquility of the Muslims, it is declared by the parties, that no pretext arising from religious opinions shall ever produce an interruption of the harmony existing between the two countries.” (Emphasis added.) This treaty was unanimously ratified in the senate, 339 to 0, and signed by President John Adams with no dissent ever recorded.

As iterated in a great video on the Social Kingship of Christ, by Unam Sanctam Catholicam, “The conservative fable of the Christian founding of our nation is really a myth… Conservatives are always going back to the ‘intent of the founders’ – that’s not going to help us from a Catholic perspective.

“People choose who will be vested with authority, but they do not, in any sense, delegate it to the elected officials. The concept of the authority of the government coming from the consent of the governed is a lie and a heresy.” (Um, democracy anyone?)

As Catholics, we believe that the whole of mankind is subject to the power of Christ and that not just the individual, but the government, too, has “an obligation in justice to seek and render worship unto God”. This is not the American government, which has, since its beginning, denied Christ’s kingship.

Our government is doing what it was made to do by tolerating the celebration of this and any other Satanic Black Mass. By continuing to promote religious liberty, standing on a democratic soapbox, Catholics are inviting this sort of evil onto their doorstep and continuing to look like hypocritical fools to everyone on the left.

We must stop fighting for religious freedom and start fighting for a government which acknowledges its authority belongs to Christ.




Sex and babies, a la carte

Forgive me! I have taken too terribly long a hiatus since my last post. Mea culpa. I have no good excuse, except perhaps my adorable firstborn who has since arrived (and aged six months!). However, cute and distracting as he may be, he’s much too good a baby to truly keep me from updating. So, lack of motivation, procrastination, and excuses – be gone! I’m back, folks.

On the theme of babies, there was a picture (or a few, actually) that recently went viral, featuring an adoptive gay couple holding a newborn baby.

Gay Dads

My heart sank as soon as I saw it.

As a Catholic, I’ve long believed marriage to be created exclusively for one man and one woman. I’ve believed this sacred and holy institution, designed by God, to be the source of new life and the best environment for children to be raised – because kids deserve a mom & a dad, married for life.

But becoming a mom myself has shed an entirely new light on my perspectives. As I’ve experienced providing things that only a mother could for her child, and watching my husband do things only dads can do, my heart absolutely breaks for babies who are robbed of their right to having a mom and a dad. It’s unbelievable we even have to call such a thing a “right” as if something so natural – like walking on two feet, for instance – is even in question.

Children like this boy, born of a surrogate mother to by raised by two men, are made a commodity. These are not pitiful, unloved children who wouldn’t otherwise have a home, if not for such adoptive gay couples (a point often made by defenders of gay-parent adoption). This child was a product, manufactured.

God made it pretty simple for us to understand. Man and woman have complementary bodies and together they can partake in the creation of new life, which is absolutely incredible and a gift for which we should be so deeply thankful. But our society has manipulated this gift – deconstructed it, perverted it and destroyed it. Imagine you spent a lifetime creating the perfect gift for someone you loved, shopping every day for decades for every ideal part, spending hours, days, weeks, months, years piecing it together. You delivered it with care and sincere joy, to be able to share such a meaningful gift you had poured your heart into. Then you leave, and return later to find your gift disassembled, partly returned, partly mutilated, partly gone.

So we have done to our Lord. We are a sodomizing, divorcing, fornicating, contracepting, aborting, pornographing society. We order up God’s gift of sex and procreation as if we have an option of “fries with that.” Want sex but no baby? Want sex by yourself? Want sex with someone else, or a few someone elses? Want to make a baby on your own terms? Want to use your sperm? His sperm? Your egg? Her egg? Two eggs, three eggs, four eggs, eight? Want the baby in her belly, your belly, “his” belly? In bed or in a petri dish? Two moms? Three dads? No mom? No dad?

Why are we taking up such an insane creative license with what ought to be a completely natural phenomenon? In a culture of organic, green, free-range everything, why are we making the simple act of sex to make babies so fabricated? It scary to imagine how we could possibly further divert from our Creator’s natural order.

I am not discriminating against same-sex couples alone, here. The great thing about truth found in faith is that these realities are universal and any circumstance which doesn’t involve sex between a married man and woman to make a baby is not okay. IVF, surrogacy, egg donation, sperm donation – these are all artificial and therefore clearly point to their perversion of God’s natural law.

Every child deserves a mom & dad because he or she has a mom & dad. It takes an egg from a woman and sperm from a man to make a baby. Conception belongs not in a lab, but in conjugal love. This is basic stuff. Why aren’t we getting it?